We all experience love in diverse ways and in turn define love between our partner’s and ourselves differently. Affection has its own language and can be understood with Gary Chapman book “Five Languages of Love” a New York Times best seller. Gary describes love in five ways that characterizes the way you might receive love from your partner or a loved one.

The first Love Language that Gary writes about is “Words of Affirmation.” This is portrayed by, saying positive words to your partner or complimenting each other. These verbal gestures create a love that makes the partner feel loved and secure with one an other. This also can make your partner feel acknowledge and know that he or she is doing a good job. Most people say “actions speak louder than words” but this type of love is different. Feeling appreciated by a loved one or partner can change your spirit and insight an affection within you that makes you feel loved and desired.

The second Love Language that Gary reveals is “Acts of Service.” This isn’t any type of service but doing acts that will make your partner feel loved such as helping out around the house or being there for each other when times are rough or when times are great, this shows that there is an inseparable bond that the both of you will get through anything. The point that Gary is making is doing something thoughtful for him or her can shows a sign or care and becomes helpful in the relationship.

Receiving gifts can change someone’s day and make him or her feel joyed and adored. Some people feel loved when given something; it can be anything as simple as a red rose or an extravagant trip to the Bahamas. This demonstrates your appreciation for one another. This doesn’t mean that love is all about materialistic items but it’s a type of love that says he or she was thinking of you. It’s the thought that counts that make you feel loved.

Being involved in a friendship or relationship requires “Quality time” the third Love Language that Gary emphasizes on involves spending time with a loved one. This means that making time for one another and appreciating the time both of you have. Examples of this can simply be, conversing with your partner and talking about each other’s day. Giving your undivided attention to each other can also make you feel special and loved.

The fourth Love Language is called, “Physical Touch. “This doesn’t necessarily mean touching your partner in an awkward way but holding hands, hugging or a thoughtful touch on the arm and shoulder or a pat on the back signifies a sign of want and need and creates love.

Gary Chapman said, these Five Love Languages could help your love grow between your partner and a loved one if you find out what type of love you are and what makes you feel wanted and cared for. Love is indescribable but the Five Love Languages creates a chance to understand one another to an extent to which it can improve your relationship. Gary Chapman said, “We’re not talking comfort. We’re talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren’t connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn’t enough.” Try seeing what type of love you are and put it to the test, it could spark up your relationship.